“Don’t Misgender Them”: Trans Activists Defend Ezra Miller’s Pronouns Amid Child Grooming Allegations

Growing controversies surrounding Ezra Miller’s history of violent and predatory behavior are being sidelined as trans activists appear to be more concerned about ensuring members of the public don’t ‘misgender’ the Flash star. Miller, who is biologically male but identifies as non-binary, has stated he prefers the pronouns they/them/it and zir. 

Miller has been making headlines this week after a mother took to Twitter to state that her daughter had effectively been ‘brainwashed’ by Miller, and that she had not been able to contact her. Environmental activist Sara Jumping Eagle told her followers that her daughter, Tokata Iron Eyes, has not had a phone since January of this year, and that her family has been unable to locate her.

Jumping Eagle says her daughter and Miller met at Sioux Standing Rock territory when Iron Eyes was just 12 years old in 2016. Miller had been visiting the No Dakota Access Pipeline protests that had gained widespread notoriety at the time.

Miller, who was 23 at the time, began an inappropriate relationship with the young girl. Her parents claim he gave her LSD, alcohol, and other drugs to gain “control” over her. When Iron Eyes was 14, Miller flew her and a few other members of the Standing Rock Sioux out to London to visit the Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them studio set.

During the trip, Jumping Eagle says Miller was only prevented from sleeping in the same bed as her daughter by a chaperone. Miller later offered to pay for Iron Eyes’ education at Bard University, which her family says created a sense of “indebtedness” to him. She later dropped out and left with Miller.

Early on, Miller had begun exhibiting what Iron Eyes’ parents call a pattern of “cult-like and psychologically manipulative, controlling behavior.” On June 7, a Standing Rock Sioux Tribal Court granted a protective order which would require Miller to stay away from Iron Eyes, but they have been unable to locate either one of them to serve the documents.

While Iron Eyes allegedly put out a statement to her Instagram explaining she was safe, her parents had already noted that Miller had control of her social media.

On Friday, The Los Angeles Times reported that they had obtained a copy of the court order, which noted that Miller “uses violence, intimidation, threat of violence, fear, paranoia, delusions, and drugs to hold sway over a young adolescent Tokata.” Multiple incidents of impropriety are listed.

In the same fashion as Miller, Iron Eyes, who is now 18, allegedly now identifies as non-binary and transgender as well, as goes by the name “Gibson.”

Despite the severity of the disturbing allegations mounting against Miller, some trans activists have been more focused on policing those not properly abiding by Miller’s non-binary identity.

On TikTok, anyone addressing Miller by masculine pronouns is swiftly corrected, while on Twitter, posts have wracked up thousands of ‘likes’ calling for Miller’s non-binary identity to be respected while discussing the allegations against him, and mocking those who want to focus on the crimes rather than his preferences.

“Ezra assaulting women doesn’t mean it’s okay to misgender them. You don’t get to dead name or misgender ppl just bc you don’t like them or do something bad. That’s transphobic. Fuck Ezra Miller. BUT STOP MISGENDERING THEM,” @AussieRavenclaw tweeted.

Some social media users even suggested Miller’s actions were on par in severity with misgendering.

“People will really claim to be an ally or claim to support non-cis people until that said person does something bad. Yeah, they (ezra) might be a horrible person, but we shouldn’t step down to their level and be a bad person too by misgendering them,” another user wrote on Twitter.

According to Sara Jumping Eagle, Miller has been using his identity to shield himself from criticism, calling those who express concern about her daughter “transphobic.”

Jumping Eagle says: “If anybody questions Ezra’s actions, Ezra says they’re being racist or transphobic, which is not the case in our case. It’s about not hurting people. Don’t take advantage of people.”

Miller’s behavior has been the subject of widespread controversy over the years, starting with a 2020 incident in Iceland in which video footage was released of Miller choking a young female fan and throwing her to the cement.

In March of this year, Miller was arrested after becoming hostile at a karaoke bar in Hawaii. During the incident, he aggressively pulled a microphone from a 23-year-old female and began shouting obscenities, and the police were subsequently called. In Police body cam footage, Miller was heard informing an Officer of his pronouns, and claiming Police would be committing a hate crime by misgendering him again.

Miller also became irate with the fact that a male police officer had been assigned to conduct the search of his person, to which he responded: “I’m transgender non-binary and I don’t want to be searched by a a man. I claim my fourth amendment rights!”

In his most gruesome assault, which took place in April of 2022, one month after the last incident, the 29-year-old was arrested for second-degree assault. Police reported that he was accused of throwing a chair at a 26-year-old woman, and leaving her with a half-inch gouge on her forehead. Miller was charged with disorderly conduct and only fined $500 for the attack.

According to her parents, Tonkata Iron Eyes was with Miller in Hawaii during these incidents. In less than one month on the Islands, Miller was the subject of 10 Police calls.

Miller is hardly the first violent male to use his gender identity as a shield for his inappropriate behavior.

Last year, Christian Weston Chandler, a long-standing internet icon, was arrested on charges of sexually assaulting his intellectually disabled mother. Like with Miller, Chandler’s pronouns were rapidly defended by trans activists on social media.

Offline, a pedophile in the United Kingdom was recently released into the community after a court decided prison would be too difficult for him due to his transgender status.


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Lavy Shwan
Lavy Shwan
Lavy is a writer and social media content creator at Reduxx. A refugee from Iraq, she currently lives in the United States, where she immerses herself in Marxist and feminist theory, and advocates for women's rights.
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